Practicing Self-Care...or at least attempting to.
My question was, can 30 days of self-care make me a happier, healthier human-being? Could I wake up 30 days in a row and be happy?
My answer? I have no clue because I didn’t stick to my plan. I don’t even think I got a full week in.
To be fair, 30 days was probably a dumb idea in the first place. Rule #1 of making major life changes is to make the goals attainable. I really just threw all logic out the window, didn’t I?
However, I still learned some incredibly valuable lessons…
I don’t know if self-care makes me a happier, healthier, human. What I do know makes me a happier, healthier, human is consciousness (or presence) and gratitude.
How I came to this conclusion was while getting a pedicure. I’m not a huge fan of pedicures and about mid-way through I found myself just wishing it was over! As soon as the thought crossed my mind I felt awful. I am so incredibly blessed to have a life where I can get a pedicure whenever I want to, I can practice self-care basically however and whenever I want. Yet here I was being so ungrateful and choosing to make a potentially enjoyable experience that I “get” to do, into a “have” to. I noticed this in other areas too. I began noticing how when chatting with a girlfriend my mind would begin to wander, or while laying by the pool I would be complaining to myself about how hot it was.
I realized that to truly appreciate the self-care that I was practicing, I had to be grateful for it, and to be grateful, that meant I needed to be present to the moment, really notice the small things. Because the fact is, my life is FULL of experiences that could be considered self-care, if I choose to see it that way.
Our worlds really are what we think they are, and the way we think, can drastically change our perspective on our lives. So, although I went into this thinking I would learn about self-care, my eyes were really opened to the conversations happening in my head, and how much that was affecting my happiness.
The amazing Gabrielle Bernstein wrote this beautiful blog that I’m attaching a link to in the comments. She has some powerful tips for how to start changing those conversations to gratitude that I really enjoyed.
be kind to all living beings, including yourself.